Parenting

Sleepover Suggestions--Helping Your Child Feel More Comfortable

Posted: 12/5/2010

Help your child feel more comfortable attending sleepovers.

(NAPSI) - While some kids beg their parents to attend sleepover after sleepover, many are apprehensive about spending the night away from home, especially those who may have bedtime issues. If your child is afraid of the dark, occasionally wets the bed or is just nervous about sleeping somewhere new, sleepovers can often be a source of anxiety and pressure for him or her.

As a parent, you can help them feel more comfortable and at ease with these sleepover suggestions from the GoodNites® NiteLite™ Panel. For more sleepover tips and compassionate support for your child's bedtime issues, visit www.GoodNites.com.

To Grandmother's House They Go

Dawn Meehan, mother of six and author of Because I Said So…, recommends doing a sleepover "test run" somewhere they're already comfortable with--like Grandma's house. "If your child is apprehensive about sleeping over at a friend's house, you might want to set up a sleepover at Grandma's or another close relative's house," Meehan said. "This can be a great way to help your child gain confidence." To ensure the practice sleepover goes smoothly, make sure Grandma knows about their bedtime concerns in advance.

Host the Sleepover at Your House

Often, kids struggle with sleepovers because they fear embarrassment if their friends learn about their nighttime issues. "Social acceptance plays a major role in developing and maintaining self-esteem," said Dr. Jennifer Trachtenberg, pediatrician and mother of three. If your child is concerned about staying at a friend's house, have the first sleepover at your house and limit it to just one friend so he or she is not overwhelmed. Having the sleepover at your house creates a safe zone where your child can enjoy the fun experience, increasing willingness to venture to a friend's house in the future. Plus, they can be more discreet about using a night light or putting on GoodNites® Underwear for comfort and protection if they wet the bed.

Keep Sleepover Conversations Casual

Constantly talking about sleepovers or bedtime issues may increase their fears. Don't push your children to attend or host sleepovers if they're not ready--the last thing you want them to feel is pressured. Instead, casually bring it up in conversation, like "This would be a fun game to play with your friends at a sleepover," so they can warm up to the idea.

Share Your Sleepover Stories

Sometimes, kids find comfort in knowing they're not alone. Share your experiences with your children about the fun sleepovers you attended as a kid and give them a chance to ask questions or express their anxiety. "Remember, effective communication is a two-way street, so listen closely to what your children tell you and validate their concerns and feelings," said Dr. Trachtenberg. They'll enjoy hearing your stories and may be more interested in attending the next sleepover if they know you had good experiences.