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101 LITTLE INSTRUCTIONS FOR SURVIVING YOUR DIVORCE
IF ONLY LIFE AFTER DIVORCE CAME WITH INSTRUCTIONS!
"I felt like Humpty Dumpty after his fall," was
how Jane described
her life after her divorce.
For Tony it was more like suddenly finding everything he'd believed
in and committed himself to little more than "a deck of cards that
had been scattered in a game of 52-card pickup."
Divorce can be a shattering experience, leaving your trust, hopes,
expectations, and feelings scattered on a rough surface of painful
memories, jagged realizations, and sharp challenges. When the "I
do's"
become "I don'ts," you'd sure appreciate a little friendly hand-holding
through the daunting maze of court procedures and the "what now?"
aftermath of ending your marriage.
Take heart. The parts of your life that felt broken after your divorce
can be reassembled into a new, healthy whole. Some practical tools and
realistic expectations are required. (Tip #1: "Divorce is not an
event,
it's a process. Whether it takes three weeks, three months, or three
years, nothing will be solved immediately. Take a deep breath and relax
as much as you can.")
"At its best," says Barbara J. Walton, a practicing attorney
in Meadville,
Pennsylvania, "divorce is a legal untangling of ties between a husband
and a wife." What usually surprises her "are not the facts of
the case,
but the extent to which the parties either destroy each other or themselves
in the process." (Tip #31: "Why is it we can be friendly and
smile at
perfect strangers . . . but we can't even use ordinary civility to a person
we used to love deeply?")
Having "been there" many times with her clients, Walton understands
the
value of compassionate, commonsense advice served up in brief nuggets
for quiet contemplation. She wrote 101 LITTLE INSTRUCTIONS FOR SURVIVING
YOUR DIVORCE: A NO-NONSENSE GUIDE TO THE CHALLENGES AT HAND
(Impact Publishers, Inc.) to help those going through divorce to approach
the
breakup without breaking down.
Walton's warm, experienced guidance, framed in the style of Life's
Little Instruction Book, addresses these critical issues, among others:
- Custody (Tip #18: "Visit your children, even if the custodial parent
makes it difficultÖ")
- Support (Tip #69: "Pay your support.")
- Property and Finances (Tip #78: "The more you fight over 'stuff,'
the more money goes out of your pockets and into the pockets of the
attorneys.")
- What to expect In the Courtroom (Tip #59: "What will happen in
the
courtroom is like having painful but necessary surgery - without anesthesiaÖ")
Each "instruction" encourages rebuilding after divorce with
hope and
practical thinking. Walton's engaging style invites readers to "read
some
portion of the book, then think about what's been said, and compare it
with
your own situation. Not everything will apply to your case. But common
sense and practical thinking will surely lead you to your healthiest
conclusion."
Barbara J. Walton has been licensed as an attorney since 1986, practicing
in the area of family law. A child of divorce, she is also a single mother,
so she has personal as well as professional knowledge of the many issues
involved. She advocates a commonsense approach based on her observation
of long-term effects of the legal process on both adults and children.
101 LITTLE INSTRUCTIONS FOR SURVIVING YOUR DIVORCE is available from
online booksellers and local bookstores or directly from Impact Publishers,
Inc. at 800-246-7228.
101 LITTLE INSTRUCTIONS FOR SURVIVING YOUR DIVORCE:
A No-Nonsense Guide to the Challenges at Hand
by Barbara J. Walton
128 pages -- Trade paperback
ISBN: 1-886230-24-2 -- September 1999 -- $12.95
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