Why Good Girls Love Bad Boys
By Lisa Daily
We've all done it at one time or another. We whine to our friends about
the lack of nice available guys, and then, when given the choice between
a nice, sweet (safe) guy and a bad boy who makes our toes curl, we invariably
go for the toe-curler. The heartbreak-waiting-to-happen. The bad boy.
Doesn't make any sense, does it?
I recently received a letter from a sweet guy who wrote,
"I've been looking for some insights to what women are looking for,
because
from my perspective, they often go for that which they complain about
most!
Got any advice for us men?"
Baby, you hit the nail right on the head.
There's good news and bad news for all you nice guys out there. Your day
will come. It just may not be today.
Nearly all women go through some period in their lives when they're swept
up by a bad boy. The Navy Seal with the amazing bod and the mental prowess
of a fruit plate. The Harley guy with mean beard stubble and an attitude
to match. The Josh Hartnett look-alike who makes us feel like the center
of the universe, and then puts the moves on our roommate the minute we
leave for the ladies room. We can see these guys coming a mile away, and
yet we fall for it every time.
Why?
Part of us actually like to believe we can be the one girl to turn this
wild man into a pussycat. Part of us just like that down-to-our-toes thrill,
the excitement of something we KNOW is bad for us. (Like chocolate cheesecake,
and Jimmy Choo shoes.) Part of us are just gluttons for misery.
Most women actually grow out of the bad-boy phase once we hit our mid
twenties. Our girlfriends start to couple off, and we start wondering
if we used up our nice guy quota in college when were still torturing
men for sport. That's where you come in, Mr. Sweet Guy. Because you're
the guy we really want.
Here's my advice for all the nice guys:
Remember what we were wearing on our first date. Give romantic gifts on
birthdays and anniversaries (and remember flower-mandatory holidays such
as Valentine's Day.) Get what we're all about. Let us know what you're
all about. Kill any bugs that sneak into the kitchen. Give us your coat
when it gets chilly outside. And remember there's a fine line between
being a nice guy and being a doormat -don't take any crap from us. After
all, you don't want to be a good boy in love with a bad girl.
Dating Expert Lisa Daily is an internationally known dating
coach and the author of Stop Getting Dumped!
All you need to know to make men fall madly in love
with you and marry "The One" in 3 years or less. As seen in
Cosmopolitan, The Washington Post and Glamour Magazine
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