Attraction Happens "How To Get
That One Special Girl"
This is a free email newsletter that teaches men how to
be
more successful with women and dating.
Every week, I get a whole bunch of emails that say
something like:
"David, help me. I've been dating different women, but
now there's this one perfect girl, and I need to know
what to do to get her"... or...
"David, there's this girl that I've been in love with
for ever, and I need to know how to make her love me
back".
This week, I want to talk about one of the major
mistakes that guys make when dealing with REALLY
attractive women:
INSTEAD OF TREATING THEM LIKE PEOPLE AND DOING THE
SAME THINGS THAT WORK WITH EVERYONE ELSE, THEY MAKE
THE MISTAKE OF ACTING DIFFERENTLY, AND IN DOING SO
THEY SCREW IT UP FOR THEMSELVES.
Why is it that we think that just because WE find
this one girl so attractive, that it somehow makes her
DIFFERENT from the rest of the women in the world?
Why is it that we can find a system that works and
helps us attract and date women, but when an unusually
attractive women shows up, we think that what has
worked for us in the past needs to change for this one
special person?
I have to take a time-out and mention that I can
totally understand what it's like to meet a "special"
girl. For each of us, there is a woman or type of
woman that is MAGNETICALLY attractive, and who pushes
the internal buttons instantly.
And when you meet one of these women, I think
that it's pretty natural to become hyper-alert and
to put more importance than usual on her.
But the big mistake comes when you start to treat
her differently... when you start to change how you
normally act and try to figure out and be the kind of
guy that you think she wants.
The paradox is that we think that figuring out
what a woman wants and giving it to her should make
her feel attracted to us... but when we start acting
so concerned and attentive, it usually comes across
as INSECURITY AND NEEDINESS, which are big repellants.
Is this making sense to you?
Women don't feel a gut level ATTRACTION for men
when they change what they're doing, compromise their
values, and give up their lives for a her.
As much as I would like to tell you that you can win
a woman's attraction with favors and niceness, in the
most general sense, you can't.
Remember, ATTRACTION happens on its own... and it
happens without CHOICE.
If you all of a sudden start acting differently when
you're around the DREAM GIRL, she's going to pick up on
it, and start thinking "Oh, he's just like all the other
guys... wants to give me whatever I want... NEXT."
Look, you might feel like this woman is the most
incredible, special, and perfect woman on the face of
the earth. And it might be true.
But most women (especially the really attractive
ones) don't have a fantasy about a guy who's always
acting weak and overly-attentive around her because
he thinks that she needs to be treated like someone
who's not normal. Confident, attractive women want a
MATCH to them. They want someone who is AT LEAST as
confident as they are.
So what do you do if you have that one special girl
and you want to make her feel attracted to you?
Well, here's what NOT to do:
1) Change how you act when you're around her.
2) Be overly nice and fake to her.
3) Treat her like a delicate flower that should be
encased in glass inside a museum.
And here's what to do:
1) Tease her a little more than usual.
2) Play hard to get a little more than usual.
3) If you have to, don't look at her when you're with
her. If her appearance makes you turn into a wuss, then
look away from her and imagine what she's going to look
like in 40 years as a grandma. Or look at her eyebrow
whey you're talking to her. Just distract yourself so
you don't turn in to wuss-boy.
4) Accept the fact that just like every other woman,
she might not be interested, and that you might not get
her... and deal with that issue so you can accept the
outcome. This will cause you to relax and just be
yourself more.
If you put too much importance on a woman, and it
comes across as insecurity, etc. then you're going to
lose. So don't do it.
Stay calm, and be your normal self.
Really attractive women are used to being treated
like different people, and honesty is refreshing to
them.
AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, do the things that you've
learned by reading these newsletters, and from my book.
By the way, if you haven't gotten your copy of my
eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need to do that
NOW. That is the foundation for everything that I write
in these newsletters, and it will bring all of the
concepts together for you.
I spent YEARS trying to figure out how to make the
really attractive women feel ATTRACTION for me, and in
the process I learned some amazing things.
Just go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/ebook/
...and download your copy now. I guarantee that it
will help you attract that one special woman in your
life.
I'll talk to you soon,
David D.
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and send me your success stories and questions to:
SuccessStories@DoubleYourDating.com
...and I may use your story and question in my next
newsletter!
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